Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, Byron Katie
This book helped me understand that my old ways of thinking didn't have to be permanent--that I could change how I thought into a way that was less stressful and helped me stay in the moment. As someone who is always thinking about the way things could be better, be different, accepting what is has become a powerful challenge. Katie helped me see a "teacher" in my life who caused me no end of frustration and friction, and over time I've come to appreciate what I've learned about myself from this teacher.
Three quotations that may help you:
"My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we're living with now...Again and again, they will show us the truth we don't want to see, until we see it."
"I realized that I could be right, or I could be free."
"The fear of not being fearful is one of the biggest stumbling blocks for people beginning inquiry. They believe that without stress, without anger, they wouldn't act, they would just sit around with drool running down their chins. Whoever left the impression that peace isn't active has never known peace the way I know it. I am entirely motivated without anger. The truth sets us free, and freedom acts."
Three questions to ask yourself:
Who are the teachers in your life?
What are you insisting you are right about when you could be free, instead?
Who would you be if you weren't fearful, stressed, or angry?